To work well together, it’s vital that we share similar values and visions. To that end, below are the values that guide my own parenting as well as the truths held by most of our clients.
We parent in a heart-led way. This means using our own hearts as our primary guide. The wisdom in each of our hearts is what can lead us to be the kind of parents we want to be and our kids want us to be as well. Parenting in a heart-led way requires courage, patience, and trust because we’ve learned to distrust our hearts in favor of our heads.
While our heads are valuable partners to our hearts in parenting, they can only be so when they function properly. What we mean by that is that our heads—the thinking that goes on there, to be exact—often lead us astray. Why?
- Our thinking is often pure BS. Yes, much of what runs through our minds is actually not true (even if we’ve believed it to be true for a long time).
- Our thinking is frequently inauthentic. Much of what we believe we adopted unconsciously from our parents and other key people from our childhood.
- Our thinking is habitually fear-based. Fear is a great tool for outrunning attacking carnivores but it’s an ineffective and harmful way to parent.
- Our thinking generally lacks creativity. The thoughts we have are like scripts that we run automatically when parenting really calls for thoughtful, fresh choices.
So, heart-led parenting is allowing your heart to guide your actions and using “right thinking” (not that kind we described above) as well.
Here are some things that may be true about you if you’re a Heart-Led Parent.
- You want parenting to be fun and rewarding (at a soul level), yet are having trouble achieving these results.
- You believe in concepts like attachment parenting or the continuum concept but don’t have support to follow through on your intentions.
- You regularly follow your heart yet feel besieged by a culture that devalues what you hold to be sacred.
- You resonate with books such as Radical Parenting, Everyday Blessings, Simplicity Parenting, The Continuum Concept, Attachment Parenting, Unconditional Parenting, etc. (Or these books intrigue you.)
- You want better relationships with your children than you had with your parents (even if those relationships were mostly positive).
- You want love to be your greatest legacy for your children and you readily invest yourself in your own growth as a person and parent.