"You are a parenting coach genius. I'm deeply thankful for you. I wanted to share that this morning I combined some ideas from the video on why being on time is hard for children, along with suggestions you gave me and had a TOTALLY successful experience with my son this morning (that was headed in a very bad direction). Here's what happened.
My son didn't want to go to school, and so the escalation began. Shonnie's voice popped into my head. I immediately used her suggestion of role reversal, asking my son if he wanted to be Mommy and I could be him, and he could tell me what I needed to do to get ready for school. He was so excited to do this, and within about 10 minutes, he had changed his clothes, brushed his teeth, brushed his hair, used the bathroom, washed his hands and gotten all the way downstairs to put his shoes on. Not only was this done without any push back, but he was having fun and in the car on the way to school we were laughing. And we were 15 minutes early to school! He even told me when he didn't want to play anymore and was happy to go right back to our regular roles.
Even though he had woken me two hours earlier than his normal (and I am NOT a morning person), I kept hearing Shonnie say 'deep breaths, take care of your own needs, this is normal, make him feel safe.' And I was able to surprise myself and do those things, which led to a truly bonding and healing moment for my son and me.
AND, my husband was there watching the whole thing. While my son was getting ready he said, 'That was genius. How did you think to do that?' And I responded with one word...'Shonnie.'"
~ Leah Sin, mom of two in North Carolina