How to tame your inner critic
How many of you are critical of yourself? How many of you would like to treat yourself with more compassion? How many of you think your inner critic doesn’t truly serve you?
As a recovering perfectionist, I know about judging myself harshly. Having worked with hundreds of clients over the past seven years, I also know that self-criticism is one of the most universal challenges. Regardless of the larger reasons that my clients chose to work with me (career transition, improving relationships, gaining confidence, etc.), I showed almost all of them how to create phenomenal results with less stress and struggle.
“You were given a right foot and a left foot, not a right foot and a wrong foot.”
~ Buckminster Fuller
In my private coaching and workshops, I teach specific ways to tame your inner critic and transform her/him from being your master to serving you as you choose. So you can begin to disable your self-critic system, however, I offer you the following suggestions.
- Choose to love yourself unconditionally, always, in all ways.
- Replace “right” and “wrong” with a less omniscient viewpoint like “what’s working” and “what’s not working.”
- Be your own best lover rather than expecting other people to fill up your emotional fuel tank.
- Don’t take anything personally (i.e., other’s judgments about you).
- Refuse to speak about or to yourself in any derogatory, unloving, or dishonoring way.
- Surround yourself only with those who love and honor you.
There’s no law that demands you stop being critical about yourself. However, if you want to live a full life, succeed wildly, and have an awesome time in the process, taming this inner voice of judgment is a non-negotiable action.
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