Comments on: Is perfectionism your prison or your past? http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/ Thu, 28 Aug 2008 12:00:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Shonnie http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-2700 Tue, 06 Mar 2007 17:50:03 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-2700 Great points about the tie ins to procrastination, Jason. (No, I'm not procrastinating from writing a speech right now, I'm simply taking a 5 minute breather. :-D ). I also like what you mentioned about criticism, which I think many of us learned to use as a fuel--an "I'll show them" energy booster. Though I don't think I've realized this until you wrote, I think that's counter productive too because then you're merely doing something to "prove" or "earn" recognition when the bottom line is the deepest source of love needs to come from within us, not from some external source. Thanks for sparking these ideas Jason! My inspiration meter is fired up and it's back to the speech writing now. Great points about the tie ins to procrastination, Jason. (No, I’m not procrastinating from writing a speech right now, I’m simply taking a 5 minute breather. :-D ). I also like what you mentioned about criticism, which I think many of us learned to use as a fuel–an “I’ll show them” energy booster. Though I don’t think I’ve realized this until you wrote, I think that’s counter productive too because then you’re merely doing something to “prove” or “earn” recognition when the bottom line is the deepest source of love needs to come from within us, not from some external source.

Thanks for sparking these ideas Jason! My inspiration meter is fired up and it’s back to the speech writing now.

]]> by: J. Keeling http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-2697 Tue, 06 Mar 2007 17:36:15 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-2697 Another downside to having a perfectionistic mentality is that it can result in procrastination. If you fear that your actions will not be perfect, then it's tempting to simply idle along. The fact is, we can always criticize, but in order to create, we have to relieve ourselves (and others) from the pressure to be perfect. This is sometimes easier said than done, but as Shonnie points out, with conscious effort, we can break our chains of fear. There's something to be said for "doing your best," and not necessarily worrying about "being the best." p.s. Can't wait to take your blogging course Shonnie. Another downside to having a perfectionistic mentality is that it can result in procrastination. If you fear that your actions will not be perfect, then it’s tempting to simply idle along.

The fact is, we can always criticize, but in order to create, we have to relieve ourselves (and others) from the pressure to be perfect.

This is sometimes easier said than done, but as Shonnie points out, with conscious effort, we can break our chains of fear. There’s something to be said for “doing your best,” and not necessarily worrying about “being the best.”

p.s. Can’t wait to take your blogging course Shonnie.

]]> by: Shonnie http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-1660 Fri, 02 Feb 2007 19:35:03 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-1660 Amen to that! Thanks for giving me the mind spark to write on this topic. :-D Amen to that! Thanks for giving me the mind spark to write on this topic. :-D

]]> by: Nneka http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-1658 Fri, 02 Feb 2007 18:59:16 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2007/02/02/is-perfectionism-your-prison-or-your-past/#comment-1658 Hi Shonnie, thanks for the link love. My dad would say to me that I had to be right all the time. I would get mad, but it was so true. I always had to be right and do things just so. Got to the point it was driving me crazy. Had to let it go and glad I did. Living life with "mistakes" is so much better. Hi Shonnie, thanks for the link love.

My dad would say to me that I had to be right all the time. I would get mad, but it was so true. I always had to be right and do things just so. Got to the point it was driving me crazy. Had to let it go and glad I did.

Living life with “mistakes” is so much better.

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