Do you give yourself permission to thrive? (part 1)
“Of course I do,” is likely your automatic response. “I want to be happy, have nice things, be in good relationships,” you may think. In fact you may even be living a “good life” with much of what you want in place. Yet I would contend that many of us block out the highest levels of fulfillment, prosperity, bliss, and peace without even being aware of 
doing so.
I’m going to introduce you to the factors you can change IF you’re truly ready to open your life to the abundance–in all its forms–that the universe holds. Let’s start with the root of our opportunity to thrive–beliefs.
What do you really believe?
Many of the clients I work with will write out lists of goals with confidence and ease. As I get to know them and observe how they live, however, I often see the beliefs they have that run counter to the goals they say they want. It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to achieve their goals, it simply means that part of them isn’t fully accommodating to that desire. Here’s an example (names are changed, to protect egos and privacy).
Christine’s transformation
Stated desire — “I want clients who are great to work with.”
Underlying belief — “I have to fulfill all my clients wishes.”
Here are some of the ways Christine’s underlying belief was manifested.
- She charged lower rates than colleagues who provided the same service
- She didn’t charge for extras that she gave clients
- She worked longer hours than she was truly productive for her
Guess what kind of clients Christine attracted to herself — ones who were uber-demanding, didn’t appreciate the extras they had been given, and frequently didn’t pay on time or refer other clients her way.
So our first step was to change the underlying belief (actually there were several beliefs we worked on because they were all adding fuel to this fire). After a few test runs the belief Christine decided to fully live by was:
- “I offer my expertise willingly and enthusiastically and am treated with respect and appreciation by my clients.”
This mindset change immediately impacted the way Christine felt. Instead of being resentful, anxious, and exhausted, she felt relaxed, confident, and even excited about work.Of course, changing her beliefs (and our own) is simply a first step to receiving the abundance that is our birthright. I’ll write about the next step in an upcoming post. In the meantime, add your voice to the discussion.
What beliefs have you changed? What goals do you have that aren’t coming to fruition? How can I support you in giving yourself permission to thrive?
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