Comments on: Are you an instrument of peace? http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 05:11:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Amit http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-30 Thu, 14 Sep 2006 10:19:32 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-30 Yeah I get what you're saying! I'm trying to think of a way of applying that within my own life and in day to day situations... Ok, so I think I've thought of one application, so at work, instead of saying to someone; "you did a good job!" I could say something like; "thank you for doing that, it enabled me to get on with this other thing instead" Or I could do a combination of the both?! :) Yeah I get what you’re saying! I’m trying to think of a way of applying that within my own life and in day to day situations…

Ok, so I think I’ve thought of one application, so at work, instead of saying to someone; “you did a good job!” I could say something like; “thank you for doing that, it enabled me to get on with this other thing instead”

Or I could do a combination of the both?! :)

]]> by: Shonnie http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-29 Wed, 13 Sep 2006 13:57:35 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-29 Thanks Amit. Great question you raise. It reminds me of when someone once taught me about a "different" way to deliver a compliment. Instead of saying, "Wow, great dress!" say, "Wow, that dress is a flattering color on you." The first way, though complimentary, focuses on my opinion and tastes, whereas the second gives specific info about why the dress is wonderful on that person. Given that, I think "express[ing] our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours that action met" would sound more like, "When you offered to clean up after dinner it gave me a chance to relax and made me feel your appreciation for having made dinner." If you have another idea--Amit or other readers--please share. Let's learn from each other! Thanks Amit. Great question you raise. It reminds me of when someone once taught me about a “different” way to deliver a compliment. Instead of saying, “Wow, great dress!” say, “Wow, that dress is a flattering color on you.” The first way, though complimentary, focuses on my opinion and tastes, whereas the second gives specific info about why the dress is wonderful on that person. Given that, I think “express[ing] our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours that action met” would sound more like, “When you offered to clean up after dinner it gave me a chance to relax and made me feel your appreciation for having made dinner.”

If you have another idea–Amit or other readers–please share. Let’s learn from each other!

]]> by: Amit http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-28 Wed, 13 Sep 2006 13:36:52 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-28 Great post and some great suggestions! How would you, in your opinion, apply the last point on that list? Great post and some great suggestions! How would you, in your opinion, apply the last point on that list?

]]> by: Nneka http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-26 Wed, 13 Sep 2006 01:51:24 +0000 http://shonnielavender.com/blog/2006/09/11/are-you-an-instrument-of-peace/#comment-26 I haven't had time to practice any of the suggestions, but I didn't want the points to get lost. Peace begins with me. I remind myself of that at least once a day. It usually lasts for about 2 hours after. It's a tough pill to swallow, but very empowering once you accept it. Cheers, Nneka I haven’t had time to practice any of the suggestions, but I didn’t want the points to get lost. Peace begins with me. I remind myself of that at least once a day. It usually lasts for about 2 hours after. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but very empowering once you accept it.

Cheers,
Nneka

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